Today, unfortunately, partnership is often understood as a possibility to enjoy a second person and to make one's own existence more pleasant with him. This succeeds above all when this person does not interfere with one's own needs. The partner becomes an auxiliary concept against a lonely and dreary life. And if the concept does not work with this person, then with the next one. Unfortunately, this basic attitude is not very promising. If one then wants to lead the arising problems in a partnership consultation or a self-optimization seminar from the crisis into above all own luck, this will hardly be able to have success. It needs a kind of partnership, which can be at all first fruitful, if it concerns the interhuman luck. So before looking for the right partner, one should first find the utopia for the personally right kind of partnership.

There are some parameters that are essential for a modern organic partnership in general and for your partnership in particular. You can easily identify these parameters with the NVC-plus needs lists that you can find in the downloads. It is about aspects like equality, respect, openness, trust, etc. But one of these parameters is overriding, namely vitality. A living partnership draws its vitality from the aliveness of two people. It flows into the partnership field through the magnetism that both develop for each other. Like the two poles of a magnet, the partners do not stand alone. Together they form a meta-form, the form of the couple. The couple is a superior unity. The partners draw an additional force from the common field that is created between them. If a living field does not build up anymore, the partnership is either seemingly dead or really at an end. The field is like a garden that needs to be nurtured and cared for. If the magnetic field forces are right, then the people also feel that they are in harmony.

The four-step circle of NVC-plus gives you and your partner the opportunity to make your relationship more alive. With NVC-plus you come out of your dramas and find back to the creative-utopian power that your aliveness carries. If your creative-utopian power connects with that of your partner, then a larger creative-utopian field is created between you. If you feel this field in great quality, you speak of love. Utopia means here that you look positively forward and that you form your present out of your positive future. You do not need to optimize your partnership by solving your many problems, which is an approach that rarely succeeds satisfactorily anyway. You can find a new and better way together separately from the problems and intuitively go a new way out of the common field, which is adjusted to you. So you can either deal with the problematic past or, by means of NVC-plus, with the future you are striving for. The question still remains how to practically implement NVC-plus in your partnership.